Can we learn from mistakes?

I am writing today about a topic that hit the national news. This topic is an easy target for people that are “compassionate”, or say they are. This topic is a hard one for me. I can see both sides of the argument. And also realize that some people are taking it way to far.

This is the story of Megan Meier. Everyone knows it or can find out about it easily by a quick search on the internet. It is a sad story with and uncommon tragic ending. It is a story of mean people and a young girl who killed herself.

Just to help people find where I stand, let’s go over the facts.

A young girl (13) is on her computer on MySpace.

Allegedly a mean mom down the road creates a fake account and poses as a 16yr old boy.

The young girl and Fake I.D. boy converse on MySpace. (maybe mean mama maybe not)

Mean mama (allegedly) is mean to young girl.

Young girl kills herself.

These are not the only issues in the case but these are the ones I am going to go over. Because I don’t have the kind of time it would take to completely go over the issues.

A young girl (13) is on her computer on MySpace. : Now, I am not sure where I should begin on this one. Did any one notice this girl is 13 years old…maybe I was the only one that noticed. She is 13, and no doubt had absolutely no supervision when she was on the computer. Maybe she had one in her room; cuz mommy and daddy were trying to be her friend or wanted her to like them. But I don’t know that for a fact. My opinion MySpace would have a minimum age, to me that would be a responsible thing to do. But then again that is common sense. And that is something that seems to be on the endangered species list nowadays.


Allegedly a mean mom down the road creates a fake account and poses as a 16yr old boy. : This part is where I really get off track. There is not really any proof that SHE, IS in fact the person that made the account. OR that SHE is the one that contacted the young girl. SO… it seems that this is a fishing trip to MAYBE find some evidence to charge her or to prove the charges already. But wait…this is California we are talking about. This is a whole other world. They do have Hollywood though….wait that doesn’t HELP their argument.


The young girl and Fake I.D. boy converse on MySpace. (maybe mean mama maybe not): This is where I need to ask… Where the Hell was either of her Parents? Why is a 13 yr old doing talking to a 16 yr old anyway? Because I know and remember what I thought about as a 16yr old… and that shouldn’t include anyone that is 13. So again…Where the Hell was either of her Parents? Irresponsible and Completely Stupid, at best. Now I understand more than most you need to learn from the mistakes you make, and to learn from them you have to make them. I hope all have learned from this situation.


Mean mama (allegedly) is mean to young girl. : And to this I ask… Who has had someone been mean to them? I know I have in my life. How about you. Why or how could this young lady been so emotionally disturbed that she kills herself over some idiot on the computer? This sounds like an unhealthy child to start with. What was her home situation like? Why didn’t she think she could talk to her parents? I always knew growing up that I could talk to my Mom (Dad not there) about anything. I may have gotten my face slapped into next week if I had done something too stupid. But none the less, she would still love me. Why did this girl not feel like her parents would take the time to help her? Did they not care, as the parents of the kids in the movie The Chumscrubber? (Screwed up movie. But scary true.)


Young girl kills herself. : I have always believed that suicide is the ultimate form of selfishness. I know that this thought is not a popular one, and I know it brings no comfort, and brings no peace to the family. This is the same sentiment I hear from Psychologists, and Psychiatrists both. And maybe this is the rub. Our society has taught since the 1960’s and the “love” children, that “ME” matters above all else. Is it too hard to assume that some children and young adults would grow up thinking they are the center of the universe? Then when they find out that they are not (the center of the universe) they can not handle that world? But maybe we shouldn't be comfortable and peaceful about this situation. It does however make a quote that I have seen around acutely true… “Yesterday’s flower children, are today’s blooming IDIOTS”.


So what should I conclude from this story? Whose fault is it?

The Mean Mama’s that may or may not have had anything to do with this at all……….

The child of the Mean Mama that may or may not have had anything to do with this either………..

The parents of the young girl that took her own life………………

Or maybe the young girl that thought the world was at an end in her view, and decided to kill herself……..


Some have taken this story and created a new law. Which is all well and good; However, the first person that this law helps, ironically, is the Mean Mama and her family. They received death threats because of this story. And enough hate mail / messages.

When will our people realize they are not the center of the universe? Maybe that is the moral of the story. Another is to treat people the way you would want to be treated.

Funny … If these people (and everyone else for that matter) went by the golden rule, this story wouldn’t ever been a story. Because this young lady would probably still be alive. But we will never know.

The saddest part of the story is that this is still going on. Nothing will bring the young girl back. And in our society, “someone has to pay”. Mostly I don’t see that anyone cares if it is the right person… as long as someone pays. This is a destructive and vindictive mindset that has permeated our society since we have taken the focus off of God, and put it on ourselves.

Think about it.